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In this video men's style, grooming, fitness and lifestyle expert, Aaron Marino of http://www.iamalpham.com and http://www.aaronmarino.com, talks about how to make new friends. Finding new friends is not as easy as it sounds, but if you know the process and steps that will increase the chance of you running into your new best friend, you are one step closer to finding that new friend.
Friendship is not about whom you've know the longest; it's about who came and never left your side. Aaron Marino of alpha m. has been doing a lot of soul searching lately and he's been considering who he calls 'friends'. These people aren't acquaintances but 'true friends' that you can probably count on one hand.
Alpha talks about 'friends by proxy'. He also discusses what happens when you graduate from high school. At this point there's a fork in the road: people stay and people leave. The dilemma during this change is not having friends. How do you make new friends? It's not easy but it's possible by being willing to be uncomfortable and putting yourself out there. Set yourself for success.
Friend Finding Tips
1. Spend time around people - if you isolate yourself, you can't make new friends. Be social like going to a sporting event, visiting a coffee shop, go to a bar.
2. Join a club, group, or organization - you'll meet like-minded people
3. Volunteer - do something good for the community while building a bond and camaraderie with those around you
4. Start conversations - talk to everybody! Sometimes the conversations will stick, thus a friendship is started.
5. Small talk - Small Talk Skills
6. Reintroduce yourself at the end of a conversation - get that name to stick!
7. Accept every invitation
8. Ask other people to do things - push yourself outside of your comfort zone and ask others to do things like lunch, coffee, drink, see a concert
9. Keep your friend - be a good friend by listening, being loyal, being trustworthy, being reliable, being yourself
Is it even necessary to have friends in the 21st century. As cruel as people are in modern times, I opted out of having friends 19 years ago. People made me miserable. I simply deleted all of them. What I considered friends and my girlfriend 19 years ago used, betrayed, and painfully abandoned me. I never want to repeat the experiences of 19 years ago again, even if I never have a girlfriend or friend ever again. There are far worse things than being lonely.
I have a tip, be yourself:
I used to be desperate for friends. Thus, I wasn't being myself. One day, I didn't know what to do when a nerd and a bad boy talked to me. From there, they knew I wasn't being try to myself. And they started bullying me. After elementary school, I started being socially awkward and I had very low self-esteem 'til now.
bro it's hard to get friends when I talk to guys they think I'm weirdo or gay being attracted to them and when I speak to girls they will know you are coming for sex so the best solution is to get a dog and most of the friends they smoke drink and do drugs so 95% disadvantage and you will lose friends automatically if you don't do these things 4.9% church or religious or boring activities 0.00000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000001% actually friends who stand with you in happiness and sadness and loyal and positive
This is what happened to me when I tried to make a friend (3 storys)
Me: sooooooooooo wanna be friends?
Him: see ya
Him: hey (my name)
Me: *thinks* how in the world does this guy even know my name?
Him: want to be FrIeNdS
I haven’t spoken to this guy in 8 months
3 (this was in 2nd grade)
Him: wanna play TaG?
Me: ok I’m gonna “call” my 6 friends to play too
Him: ok 👍
Me: *spends 5minutes finding friends from 100 ft playground*
Me: okay we’re playing infection though
Everyone: *arguing on who will be the tagger*
My best friend: ILL BE THE TAGGER!
Me: loooool let’s hide behind him
Mathew: *runs away knowing my idea was stupid*
Best friend: Tags 4 people
To this day my best friend is still searching for us with his infected people
I am an introvert..i only have one friend n she is in a different town... i moved to a different town for work n its been three years now, havent found a friend other than my husband... i found myself here today, i got to find myself a new friend
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how does one make friends when all their prospects are toxic people. For example, in my area drinking and partying is a favored past time. I don't mind the occasional party here and their but i don't like over doing this as i want to be successful in life and stay motivated. Any advice?
Do what you like, dont force yourself to it just because you want to make friends. Focuse on things to improve yourself. Try to learnd new skills, for example language. And you can meet many more new people and befriend them. Wish luck!
I have friends, I just need a fresh start, new friend groups and such. I am going to start middle school next year, and I’m so scared😬😪😰😨😓😭😢Somone help me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Guys - we're all literally looking for friends - let's stop acting like we don't already have something in common ! - let's link up let's try. I'm mostly looking for girl friends, already have ENOUGH guy friends although they are mostly superficial haha.
I can never really fully connect with guys, it's weird.
I've only had very few friends I never initiate conversation I'm 19 and I haven't talked to anyone outside my family since middle school I have no real hobbies I feel so disconnected from society and my life is so boring I feel like just giving up I don't know how going to a bar is gonna make me any friends I'd probably just waste my money on the overpriced alcohol and cry on my way home I feel like I have no purpose all I do with my life is watch YouTube when I get bored of that I have an existential crisis about how meaningless my life is until I find something to hold my attention on YouTube I don't see much of a point to living when all I feel is numbness followed feelings of isolation purposelessness self doubt
Lol , real alpha don't seek for freind. We are so busy for that. Only freind I have made since then is in competition. All my freind was my challengers wether in school or in sport. I have no freind for drink or partying because I am not stupid enough to wast time in bars or night club. People outside hate me and are afraid of me at the same time because u am the man you can mess with. You can play the game of being alpha mal near girls but when I arrive in the area all bullshit have to stop because I will make you weak
I live in canada but I came from other country my problem is I am little shy and I cant speak English well so it very hard to talk with others and make friends if I go somewhere some people like to talk with me they come to talk but when they got to know I cant speak English well they started to avoid me what should I do?
I have trouble making friends. I’m in middle school and I think I’m pretty nice to people. But this one “friend” of mine (used to be best friends) would always put me down. Say things like “what are you wearing *laugh that is meant to be rude but sounds friendly” or just always judge me. I would always laugh it off. I think it really lowered my self esteem. She wasn’t always like this. She was a good friend but just these little comments would make me feel bad. I don’t have social anxiety but everybody already has a friend group and I feel like I won’t fit in. And even my friends who I like won’t ask me to hang out, and when I ask them if they want to hangout, they always say things like ok yeah! But then it never happens.
So back to this girl who makes comments. She really makes me feel bad about myself but I don’t want to tell her because I will feel weak. In my class, she is a try hard. So when we were put into groups of 6, she was in my group and was trying to be funny (*cough* try hard *cough*) and then in front of everybody says “why are u being so antisocial?” And in my head I’m like, seriously? Antisocial? Ur not letting me talk. Okay? I’m basically always in ur shadow and u never give me a chance to speak, and yet u call me antisocial. I’ve recently actually become sort of antisocial because of her hurtful comments. I get scared to talk to people, I’ve become awkward. And it’s not all because of her. (And I’m not about to trash my mother) but whenever my friend or her friend talks to me while I’m busy, I don’t know what to say so I say “hi” and get back to what I was doing. Them my mom goes ahead and says to them, “sorry she’s socially awkward.”
One time we got in a fight about this and how she embarrassed me. Even my dad agrees.
With everybody stuck in their friend group, nobody is looking to make new friends, so I never even have a chance.
Whenever I’m walking with the “rude comment” girl, and she sees another friend that she likes, she goes and ditches me.
We are currently fighting rn and I can tell she tries to make me jealous by talking with her friends all the time and laughing with them. I just know it. I guess she’s not someone I should be friends with
I guess I became a little jealous too. She has so many friends. (Of course she’s not really popular but she does have a lot of friends) but I guess I’m not that nice because I get happy whenever the popular people in school talk about how they hate her.
I know I have some real friends because whenever I call myself ugly (and not fishing for compliments) they say “no don’t say that. U are not ugly”, whether they mean it or not, it feels nice
I know I shouldn’t be complaining because some people have it way worse than me but I just thought I had to say something
Sorry u had to read all that
Most of my childhod i had no friends in kinder garded i was bulied and when my mom singh me up for a art coumatiton and i was bulied there by some girls then i went to a publik school and it was hell girls started piking on me and caling me fat and i had an eating disorder but i stopet it in 2nd grade they coverd my eyes and stabed me whit a pencil now im in 4ht grade and i barely have friends
people people, how to make friends? easy as being brave enough to be yourself; we dont have a heathy social enviroment because every1 trys to look like someone alse, so ppl alike wont find each other. also because the very few who dare to be themself , at some point gets tired of being considered weird or crazy and will stay "better alone than..." so, be friend with youself and show appreciation to genuine beings!
and follow your instints... if u think that red eyes and nose, creepy eyebrows y beard (video guy lol) are not good, just keep going 😁
I’m a good looking guy but sadly have friends that don’t talk to me that much or sometimes act like I don’t exist around other cooler people so I try to just stay in the back of the class and look out the window hoping one day i can try to find that one real good true friend and hopefully find more that would care :(
I wanna make more friends in my school but its just sooo hard.Most of my friends in 5th grade are now going with there friends in there classes.Not too mention that i got put in a class were i have no friends, my only friend is this trouble maker thwt is out with his own friends he made in 5th grade.And im just here looking for more friends but cant make any becaude im antisocial and pretty dirty minded. WAT DO I DO
Same dude i just had this friend until we were playing dodge ball in gym class and after the game i called him trash for him not aiming when throwing the ball and then he got really mad and hasnt talked to me since i feel like i should applogize
So I was homeschooled for a long time which was amazing. But now I’m in highschool and I’m a lot more mature then everyone els and I know people but not people who I would hang out with outside of school. I’m a huge hockey fan and a great hockey player and I’m on a team and I get along with everyone really well on that team but not at school. What should I do?
Havent had friends for over a year now. All my life people just come and go, I never had a friend for more than 4 years. I used to have an okay amount of friends though and even a few girlfriends, but right when I graduated highschool in 2017 it all went away. I spend every day alone and I'm so lonely I feel physically sick. Too much other things are happening in my life now as well, so I have no energy to try to interact with anybody. I thought I had it bad before, but it seems to always get worse and worse every time I think that. I wish things could be okay, I wish I could be okay, but the world doesn't care. Please, even if you have one friend, please cherish them. One friend is so much better than none, and that is all I really need anymore.
You and your bae have been together for a while now. Youve passed that initial exciting spark phase. Youve passed the first "I love you." Maybe youve even passed the wedding vows. Things have slowed down now, though, and you eventually start thinking back to your single days. Its not necessarily that youre unhappy; its that you have an inexplicable longing for your single life routine. So what do you do with these feelings? Take advice from ladies who shared how to deal with wanting to be single, even when youre in a happy relationship, on a recent Reddit thread.
First of all,relax and be glad that you are living a completely normal life. This happens with all. We crave for the things that we miss in our lives,thats human nature. I think you take your relationship like a burden,just an assumption based on the fact that you search for isolation and peace when you are in a relationship. Maybe you should take it a bit lightly,give your partner their space and have some for yourself too. Enjoy it rather carrying it as a burden. I would recommend you make more friends and eventually you will find some people with whom you speak your heart out without the burden of a relationship. Just relax because this is what growing up is. This is faced by one and all. Best of luck.